My marriage is a thing of beauty, but it comes at a price. Daily or near daily we have to die to ourselves. A painful process, but it truly is the most worthwhile thing I have ever done after Christ. To sum up the experience in one word…
Since the wedding day, which was the most beautiful Colorado day, I have become a student of this word. Every day I learn a little bit more how beautiful she is, how beautiful He is and shockingly how beautiful I am (at least what Christ intended me to be).
Marriage has a funny way of pulling out the worst out of us. Insecurities, deep fears, selfishness and every hidden thing. It can be so painful, but so good. So many times already we have been so frustrated with each other and then reconcile over tears and a hug. Coming a little closer, a bit more real, and leaning on God a tad more.
Cultivating meekness is beautiful. Painful and well worth it.
Marriage also pulls out the best in us. The dreams, deep passions and all the things Christ hid in our hearts. Those are the true treasures to find inside each other. While dating it was delightful to share some hikes through the Rockies with her. It is fun by yourself, but even more rewarding to share it with your best friend. Moments like those continue, but God has already taken it to new depths I could not have dreamed of. To share the burden and fruit of prayer, fasting and ministry with Amy has been an elation to deep for words. My heart would not have been able to comprehend it just one year ago.
I had tried writing this blog post 3 times, but could not find the right words until now. Our marriage started sweet and continues to grow stronger every day.
Thoughts for those who are still single:
- It is worth doing it right: Timing will differ from couple to couple, but learning how to build the friendship, enter into a courtship, engagement and into married life is worth spending a considerable amount of time to learn how to do it Gods way.
- Cultivate Meekness: You donâ€™t have to wait for marriage to work on this. Start with Allen Hoods series on meekness.
- Learn how to budget: The temptation when you are single is to live loosely with your finances. You know how much money you have(ish) right? Make a budget, stick to it, and follow Dave Ramseys 7 step plan.
- Jesus is jealous for you: This season of your life is completely His and he wants to be close to you so desperately. I remember the loneliness that would hit me from time to time. After looking back I can see that those were some of the sweetest times I had with Him. I wouldnâ€™t trade them for anything… Ever. Seize those moments.